I am a fan of holidays. Some I love more than others but ranking up is of course, Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving traditions are what really brings it home for me to be honest. Thanksgiving is the closing of one terrific season and the opening of another all in one day. For this post, Rhonda and I wanted to share our Thanksgiving traditions, or in some instances, non-traditions that make Thanksgiving one of our favorites. We hope as you read, you will be thinking of yours and decide to share them with someone you love as well.
And this year is a great time to reflect on our blessings and give thanks. We things are difficult, that’s the time to count our blessings. And for many of us, 2020 has been just thought, difficult. But this can be a day to relish in some things that can be normal – a delicious meal and time with family and friends, even though those gatherings may look a bit smaller.
Fall evokes so many great memories for me. It seems when every new season comes along I think to myself, “Aah, this is my favorite season.” But the reality is, fall is it for me. My family is a football family and as weird as it sounds, marrying someone that shared my love of football (especially BYU football) was a requirement for my husband. Luckily, he is a bigger fan than me and that has trickled down to most of our children. The changing colors, the crispness of the air, the anticipation of the holidays, it’s all good stuff. I also think that for me, as much as Thanksgiving has constant traditions – turkey and all its trimmings, pumpkin pie and rivalry football, it’s the holiday where the Thanksgiving traditions have grown and changed over the years.
Thanksgiving traditions – growing and changing
As a little girl Thanksgiving always meant getting to hang out with my most beloved friends – my cousins. We would play games for hours, chat around the table and make guesses on when we would be adult enough to sit at the adult table. Funny thing is, when we finally were, we just all wanted to sit with each other anyway, so we never really morphed up. One of the big parts of Thanksgiving were the name cards, which my mom and my aunts always found some clever way to let us know where we would be sitting. These were the days before Pinterest, where crafty ideas had to actually come from your own brain, or from Good Housekeeping magazine. I remember one year we took sugar ice cream cones and tried to “steam” them into cornucopias. This would be what we call nowadays as a “Pinterest fail.” We still used them though. My cousins who were my same age and I would often sneak around after our moms had laid out the names at the places and switch them around so we would be assured to sit by each other. As we grew into teens, going to the movies together on Thanksgiving night became the new tradition. We felt so mature and it was the big thing to take all the little cousins to the movies. This tradition lasted well into our early twenties even after some of us started to get married.
My grandparents are now gone and our extended family is a bit too big to all gather together. Roles are changing a little. My husband and I now cook Thanksgiving every other year. (We go to his parents where they still do the cooking on those other years.) We decided to tackle this cooking task when we wanted more leftovers! Plus, we like cooking together and with the fast pace of our lifestyle that rarely ever happens, so this works.
Our first Thanksgiving cooking experience wasn’t the best though. We had never cooked a turkey before. My husband Mat was at the helm of the project, but we had several nearly fatal flaws along the way, because I’m really not a “stand back and watch” kind of gal – I had plenty of input to give. We used one of the portable cookers and put the turkey in the bag – that’s what you do, right? Well guess what? The sides of that oven are close to the good old bird and the bag melted right to the oven. When we realized it, we quickly removed the bird to carry it over to the sink to re-group and it fell flat on the floor. It was one of the moments that you either laugh or cry. We chose to laugh at that moment – not to say there weren’t a few cuss words that preceded the laughter. We followed the 30-second rule, picked up the bird and washed him off. We cleaned out the roaster and started over. Until, now, no one but me, Mat and my 6-year-old son ever knew about that mishap.
The other fun tradition that has come along is the night before Thanksgiving pie cooking. We do this every year because I take pie to the in-laws too. This started when my oldest daughter, wanted to learn how to cook. For the longest time it was just the two of us and every year we try a new recipe. Some delicious, others, not so much. Now all the ladies – my three daughters and daughter-in-law join in the fun. Many hands make light work, right? Well, maybe not, but in the end we learned that we love chocolate chip pie and that frozen cranberry pie is better left untouched. This year we will stick with the chocolate chip pie and try out a cranberry cheesecake. Pumpkin is always left to my mom and Mat’s mom…not ready to take over that tradition just yet.
Bucking some Thanksgiving Traditions
Rhonda’s family made some changes to theirs a few years back and I love it! Her thoughts about “bucking the Thanksgiving tradition trend:
“Do you love or hate huge Thanksgiving reunions? I mean the kind where little cousins chase each other in circles and you end up sitting on the floor because there are not enough chairs. As the youngest of seven children, this was our norm and I actually loved the pandemonium. My husband is also from a big family but he lands on the opposite end of the spectrum (in all things…but that’s a post for another day). He may be the world’s shiest introvert, and is also a big-time foodie. This means that turkey-on-a-paper-plate is not his idea of a good time. So when we got married he had a request, ‘Can we start our own Thanksgiving traditions?’ I agreed, even though it involved some difficult phone calls. ‘Mom, I have a new family now. It is time for us to do our own thing on Thanksgiving.’ We tried to be loving about it, but also firm. So from our first year together, our Thanksgiving meal became an indulgent spread of seafood and accoutrements. My husband makes it really special. As an artist by nature, he places a beautiful meal in front of us that features crab legs and seafood, along with turkey and traditional sides. Through the years we have cultivated some of the traditions from the families we grew up in, but Thanksgiving is all ours, baby. Especially with a blended family, I think it is important to make some traditions that are ours alone.”
Let’s not forget the eating part
Is turkey a holy sacrament at your supper, or are you like, “meh?” My love of the bird comes later, like nine o’clock that evening when I’m rebound-hungry. Then we break off big, meaty chunks and stuff it into a white roll with crisp lettuce and mayo. That’s food of the gods right there. My mouth is watering just thinking about it. Somehow, though, I’ve always been indifferent to turkey as the main event because I am a “sides” kind of girl. Give me a heap of yams and I am a happy clam.
And let’s not forget the reason why we have the holiday at all – giving thanks. This is big for me, but has been a tradition is little rough in the onset. I now have my family convinced to go around and state what we are thankful for, and oftentimes my kids get the ball rolling with both sides of the family and I love them for it. My life is full, sometimes I joke that it’s a little too full. I hope to have gratitude every day, but what’s better than a whole day to reflect on our blessings?
What are you grateful for? What are your Thanksgiving traditions? What can you ask your extended family and friends when you see them this week? Click here for some tips on getting the conversation started, reflecting on the greatness of your life, or telling some of your great traditions.
Rachel J. Trotter is a senior writer/editor at Evalogue.Life. She tells people’s stories and shares hers to encourage others. She loves family storytelling. A graduate of Weber State University, she has had articles featured on LDSLiving.com and Mormon.org. She and her husband Mat have six children and live on the East Bench in Ogden, Utah.
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