It’s not uncommon for your story to feel stuck, or to feel like writing a memoir is a completely impossible task. We have a vision in our minds, but transferring it over to something real and tangible feels overwhelming. We often ask ourselves questions like, “Where do I start?” “Will anyone care?” “Is my story enough?” As for answers to two and three – yes, yes! Plenty of people will care and your story is enough, no doubt about it. Let’s be honest, what would you give to hear a voice again that has long-since passed? I know for me, it’s absolutely priceless. In the past year we have been digitizing some old family videos. I wasn’t aware my husband was starting the project and I was downstairs. When I came upstairs, and heard my grandpa’s voice for the first time in more than a decade, I almost dropped the laundry I was carrying. It was like manna from heaven. And when we started that task it was for a college project over 20 years ago. We didn’t know the lasting effect it would have. So now it’s up to us to make that effect for those that follow us.

Related: Your Story is Enough

Where do I start?

As for question 1, “Where do I start?” I think can be tricky, but only because we make it so. We spend so much time trying to figure out where to start that we don’t start and we get stuck at the beginning. The short answer: wherever you want. We often think we have to start at the beginning, but that’s not necessarily the case. Oftentimes, we are moved to start writing our story (or someone else’s story) because of a thought or feeling we have. The best suggestion I can offer is to start with whatever moved you to write the story in the first place. If that’s at the beginning of someone’s life (or yours) that’s okay. If what keeps coming to mind is a really sweet vignette right smack dab in the middle of someone’s life, that’s okay too. It’s about just getting the words down and/or getting the voice recorded.

Related: Resources for Family Storytelling and Writing

My grandparents were a catalyst to start telling our story.

A Story is Told in Moments

Stories are told in moments, vignettes if you will. I started writing my first memoir last year. Prior to that, I spent my life writing short articles and stories, The idea of writing a memoir pushed me way out of my comfort zone. So instead of trying to eat the whole elephant in one sitting, I took small bites. One night as I was just hemming and hawing about it (perhaps even whining about it) and my husband simply asked me: “How many stories have you written in your life?”

“Wow, I have no idea,” came my simple response. “Maybe 1,000.”

We agreed that it was probably well over that number. He gently pointed out that all a memoir was a string of short stories weaved together. “Write your memoir one story at a time,” was his advice. Duh. Of course that’s what I needed to do. I knew it in my heart, but I just needed someone to tell me those words. So now here I am giving you the same advice: write the short stories and then weave them together. You will have a beautiful tapestry at the end that will be legacy for years to come.

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Specific Questions Yield Great Answers

Earlier this year I was able to interview Steve Rockwood, CEO of FamilySearch. He talked about their specific theme of the conference: food and family recipes. When you think of family recipes, specific stories come to mind, no doubt about it. Before long, the stories start flowing and you want to write them down. It’s like that with any topic. What is a special bond your family shares? Is it food? Music? Sports? Camping? The list could go on and on. The point is, asking specific questions gets specific answers. When you ask someone how their day is, the common response is usually, fine. When you ask someone what they did last night they have to tell you at least one thing they did. It’s the same with interviewing and storytelling. Get specific. It’s more interesting and it is the key to make your story enough. Think your life is mundane? Ask a specific question to yourself about the whys of your faith or even the way you decorate your home and that mundaneness disappears, I promise. If you need a little help we have a complete book of questions that are sure to get your creative juices flowing and get whoever your interview is with thinking outside the box.

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 Do it Now

If there’s one thing I can’t stress enough – start today! Even if you are starting small, that is so much more than you had yesterday. Record that thought, that small story, record your voice or that of a loved one. It doesn’t have to be Pulitzer Prize winning work. Your family will love it and love you for whatever you give them because it is a piece of you, a piece of your heart – or that other family member you are delving into. This week I was at a family history class where the woman was trying to find to link back just one generation. She had nothing past her grandfather. She is stumped and she is sad. What she wouldn’t give to talk to him for just five minutes to find out why he left his family and came to America – to know who he came with and even who is mother is. If you’ve felt the nudge, it’s for a reason, so act now. You will never regret it.

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